This week I’ve noticed a strange phenomenon going on in the blogosphere. It seems like everyone’s gone into some sort of meltdown at the same time.
Either that, or everyone’s in a perpetual state of meltdown, and getting brave enough to talk about it.
The posts I read were illuminating.
First there was 4amWriter (who does, impressively, get up at 4am to write). She did an analysis of her time spent Blogging vs Writing and the results were – astounding.
Let’s just say, it’s more than the average 21 hours most Aussies spend on-line in one week.
I encourage you to check out her blog, because in it are some great links to other posts and related conversations about blogging habits.
Most notable (and I hope she won’t mind my linking to this one) is a post by jmmcdowell that includes a live poll on how we follow blogs. Did you know most people follow between 100 and 200 blogs? I didn’t (though I am getting close to the 100 mark).
Right after I read these two posts, I saw another one by onethousandsingledays. In I’m not a jerk, but I am sorry, she discusses the issue of life, balance and replying to blog comments.
There are other comments I’ve received, tweets I’ve read, and probably a hundred other posts I haven’t read, discussing a similar theme:
How to honour our followers
while also honouring our real life loves and occupations.
There’s no easy answer to that. Everyone has different expectations and reasons for being here. There are also numerous (and sometimes conflicting) rules out there about what one should and should not do.
I devoured those rules when I first started blogging. Rules are useful – they help point me in the right direction when I haven’t got a clue. They also (hopefully) stop me from making a complete nincompoop out of myself.
But here’s the thing:
Too many rules does not a happy blogger make.
Maybe it’s just me, but I start having what are affectionately referred to as ‘Alarna Dramas’. I get paranoid, and wonder if maybe I did something that upset someone and maybe that is why I haven’t heard from them in, like, two weeks?
I’m no different than anyone else out there when it comes to a borderline blogging addiction.
I mean, who doesn’t feel a rush every time they log in to WordPress and see the little orange speech bubble gleaming in the corner? Not to mention gloom when the bubble’s STILL a shade of grey.
But then I think back to those days, before blogging, when the Inbox was empty and the phone didn’t ring and nobody visited unless they were invited and I ask myself some simple questions…
- How many meaningful real life friendships do I actually have?
- How long do they usually last?
- How often do I hear from them once a month, let alone once a week (and vice-versa)?
- Is the conversation always equally two-sided?
- Is the conversation always interesting?
When I compare that to the quality and level of weekly online engagement I’m expecting myself, and others, to adhere to, suddenly the rules fall away and I am just eternally grateful for anyone who ever bothers to come by, let alone RETURN…
So, in honour of all the faithful and not-so-faithful bloggers out there, I say, let’s give ourselves a break.
It’s like this tweet I fell in love with yesterday:
Presumably, there’s no one holding a big stick over our heads making us blog our hearts out, right?
Let’s do what’s meaningful for us, and let the natural laws of physics do their thing.
Life’s too short. At least that’s my thought on the matter. How about you?
Credit for images is as follows:
Emotiguy by farconville, courtesy FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Signposts by jannoon028, courtesy FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Friends by digitalart, courtesy FreeDigitalPhotos.net